Fargin is a Yiddish word describing how you feel when you wholeheartedly appreciate the success of others. In other words, it also means to genuinely rejoice in the success, happiness or good fortune of someone else without any resentment or any jealousy.
Dr. Damanjit Kaur (MD Psychiatry)
This concept can have an enormous impact on business and personal relationships. For e.g., getting an assistant to a player, or employees working for an employer, in both the cases they work towards scoring the goal and play a critical role in making it happen although they may not get the glory of actually scoring the goal.
It is a powerful force in building relationships and encouraging collaboration in an organization. When we genuinely celebrate the success of our colleagues, we create an environment of positivity and mutual respect. This also helps in building a culture of continuous improvement. It is about active participation, loyalty and shared success.
Here are some ways to practice fargin:
1. Self-awareness: start by examining your own emotions and attitude towards the success of others. For e.g., Reflecting upon in a way “are you genuinely happy for them or do you feel envious or resentful”?
2. Cultivate empathy: put yourself in other person’s shoes and try to understand the hard work and effort that went into their success. This can help you to appreciate their achievements.
3. Celebrate with them: join them in their joy, be a part of their celebration, send thoughtful messages. Your presence and support mean a lot to them.
4. Be a good listener: when someone share their achievements or good news, listen attentively and show genuine interest in their story. Ask questions and give positive feedback. Let them know you care about their success.
5. Avoid comparison: especially comparing your achievements or life situations to others. Remember, that everyone has their unique path and timeline. What might come easy to one person may take more time for other person.
6. Practice gratitude: acknowledge your own blessings. This can help you maintain positive attitudes. Surround yourself with positive influences and supportive social circle which can inspire and reinforce the positive mindset.
7. Avoid negative conversation: refrain from gossips or negative conversations about other’s success. Instead, redirect conversation towards positive topics.
8. Learn from others: those who succeed have valuable lessons to teach. Be open to learning from their experiences as this can become the source of inspiration for you.
9. Challenge jealousy and insecurity: if you find yourself feeling envious from other’s success, take a moment to reflect on these emotions and work on addressing the root cause.
Remember, practicing Fargin is not just about benefitting others but also improving your own well-being. It can bring more positive relationships, personal happiness and fulfilled life. This can further lead to more supportive and compassionate world.
Dr. Damanjit Kaur (MD Psychiatry)
Faith Hospital, Chandigarh
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